The Trouble with Boyfriend Jeans

Several weeks ago I decided to break out of my skinny denim rut and give boyfriend jeans a shot.  I don’t know about you, but trying on denim in stores is painful for me because (a) stores inevitably do not have the size you want (b) in the wash you want and (c) the sales people tend to be pushy about making you show them how they look but then are (d) completely incapable of being honest about how your backside looks.  My way around this miserable situation was to order almost every make and model of boyfriend jeans available through the great online clothing mecca, Shopbop.  The photo below shows only half of what showed up on my doorstep:

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Several lessons were learned while trying on 30+ pairs and wearing the ones I ultimately picked (Citizens of Humanity’s Dylan Boyfriend).  To save you time and agony, my unscientific but completely honest research is presented here:

Lesson #1: Order one size smaller than your usual  – your normal size in boyfriend will swallow you whole.  This finding was consistent with every brand.

Lesson #2: Stay away from the wildly distressed versions to avoid looking like you’ve just painted a house or laid asphalt.  I remember reading in The Lucky Guide to Mastering Any Style half a decade ago that you can buy a pink jacket and you can buy a motorcycle jacket, but you should never buy the pink motorcycle jacket.  In shopping lexicon that means one statement at a time, my friends.  And I bet the denim sales associates would never tell you that.

Lesson #3: You may want to carry an emergency belt in your handbag as they seem to loosen up more than fitted jeans.  I was literally – embarrassingly – centimeters from being in a low-rider situation on my way to lunch one day last week.  And hiking them up only bought me a few strides before I had to do it again, and again, and again…

Lesson #4: Pair your new baggy denim with something a bit more fitted on top.  The following is a conversation shared with my almost-11-year-old daughter on a recent Saturday morning while she sat on my bed as I dressed:

H: Um, what’s with the mommy pants?

Me: They are NOT “mommy pants” they are boyfriend jeans and they happen to be VERY popular.

H: Popular where?

Me: You see street style photos and pictures in magazines of women wearing them with their heels and blazers all the time.

H: Then you should put on heels and a blazer or change back into your skinnies because you’re looking a little…down on the farm in that button-down.

It may sound like I regret my baggy-denim purchase, but I really am loving the relaxed silhouette.  And I confess to still wearing them with my button-downs, though only in our home or when well covered by a trench.

images 1 & 3 via tumblr, image 4 via Atlantic-Pacific

Suit Up

Suit Up
Are you ready for spring break?  Now is the time to hop online and order the suits you’ve been eyeing so you can try them on in the privacy (and more forgiving light) of your own home.  With most companies offering free shipping and free returns, it’s worth it to order each suit not only in the size you think you wear but also one size up and one size down.  If you are mailing one back, you might as well mail twenty back.  I love all of the above, but my absolute favorites are the sweet, sophisticated bow embellished one-piece and the sexy, barely-there Basta Surf string bikini.  Who says you have to stick to one poolside identity?

Miu miu bow embellished one piece
$245 – net-a-porter.com

Adidas mesh swimsuit
$80 – net-a-porter.com

Brightside floral underwire bikini
$245 – zimmermannwear.com

J Crew bow bikini bottom
$42 – jcrew.com

Anxiously Awaiting Spring

A detail from Cornelis van Spaendonck’s Vase of Flowers on a Stone Table with a Nest and a Greenfinch, 1789. The Louvre

I am desperately craving everything spring.  Crocuses.  Tulips.  Daffodils.  Longer days.  Cool breezes.  Light layers.  Skin-warming sunshine.  Open windows.  Digging in the dirt.  GreenI want green.

Daffodils exploding on Martha Stewart’s Bedford Farm

Is anyone else sick to death of wearing heavy knits and of boots as the only option for your feet?  Sadly, it is going to be awhile before we can pack them away here on the Third Coast (the Weather Channel is pushing a winter weather advisory as I type), but there are ways to bring elements of spring into our lives and wardrobes now.

Pale pink hyacinth.

Pale pink hyacinth.

A high impact/low cost must is to grab a bunch of spring flowers from the market.  I bought the above bouquet at Trader Joe’s for a mere six dollars.  The fragrance was amazing and they lasted for an entire week!

The next easy way to get a spring fix is to inject color into your wardrobe.  Almost every shade of colored denim (above pair available here) looks fabulous with grey, black, or winter white, so wear your spring hued jeans with a chunky neutral sweater (don’t you think the above outfit is crying for an oversized grey cardigan?) and throw on a pair of ankle boots.  Done.  I’d add a messy updo and a thick chain link bracelet but that’s just me.

Bold black and white was a heavy hitter on the Spring 2013 runways.  This body skimming number (here) is a great transitional piece.  Wear it now with tights, booties and a jacket, then bare your arms and legs as the mercury rises.

This soft and flowy iris print blouse (available here) will look perfect peeking out from under a blazer and paired with rolled up boyfriend jeans.

I was thrilled to see ultra-feminine lace return as a spring trend.  This dress (available here) would look chic with a loose blazer or a hip length jacket now.

Spring stripes and pastel button downs are a breath of fresh air for men and women.  This cotton cashmere sweater (available here) will transition beautifully through the next three seasons.

I’m crazy over this silk tie with its pale pink back ground and graphic chain-link print (available here).  Justify it as an Easter Sunday splurge and wear it all spring and summer.

Let’s ignore the fact that the above model looks like an extra from Less Than Zero and focus on the fabulous floral prints from the Prabal Gurung for Target collection.  Run, don’t walk – it’s flying off the shelves (see the entire lookbook here).  If you’re on the fence about investing in florals, this ultra-reasonable line would be a good place to start.

J. Crew’s spring collaboration with Liberty of London showcases the latter company’s famous floral prints on everything from the above collared shirt to shoes, pajamas, swimsuits and pocket mirrors.

A spring inspired pedicure will make you smile every time you glimpse your toes.  Mint green polish (above available here) is on every beauty editor’s hit list for spring, but I say choose whatever cotton candy color makes you happiest.

My daughter has this light purple on her fingers right now and I am a little jealous.  Must copy.

Uniqlo is finally available online, and this ultralight down jacket (available in several colors here) is a steal at $69.90.

Leather is another huge trend this spring, and this muted metallic cap-sleeved top from Skaist Taylor (available here), while definitely not a steal, would be a fabulous layering piece now and an absolute stand out when the weather breaks.  It truly makes me weak in the knees.

So from now until sunshine coaxes the first crocuses through the snow, I will plan my gardens (finally getting to the landscaping this year), watch spring training games on mlb.tv (the Cubs, of course) and shop like it’s already here.  You?

Image one via The Louvre, image two via The Martha Blog, last image via The Gifts of Life Tumblr.

apres ski

apres ski
I am in the throes of packing for a trip to Lake Tahoe.  Pro: absolutely everything going in is comfy and casual. Con: ski clothing and accoutrements are bulky as hell.  At least I’m not entertaining fantasies of getting it all in a carry on.  A Lafco Ski House candle and chocolates from our local sweet shop are also in the suitcase for our gracious hosts.  And my camera, of course.  I cannot wait to share pictures of this breathtaking place with you.

Isabel Marant sweater
$495 – net-a-porter.com

AllSaints silk tank
$58 – allsaints.com

Moncler down jacket
$955 - flannelsfashion.com

T by Alexander Wang knit pants
$295 - harveynichols.com

Sorel boots
$150 – jildorshoes.com

Judith Jack snowflake earrings
$62 – nordstrom.com

Paige Denim knit hat
$45 – backcountry.com

Ray-Ban metal aviator sunglasses
$195 - net-a-porter.com

The Friday Five: Classic Pieces You’ll Never Regret

Five for Friday: Classic Pieces You'll Never Regret

Donna Karan silk jersey dress
$2,080 - harveynichols.com

Helmut Lang jersey dress
$140 – net-a-porter.com

J Crew polka dot silk blouse
$128 – jcrew.com

Equipment star silk blouse
$248 – intermixonline.com

Nine West leather pumps
$79 – ninewest.com

Manolo Blahnik leather pumps
$625 – barneys.com

Vintage Chanel shoulder bag
$4,110 - harveynichols.com

J.Crew Edie grand handbag
$190 – jcrew.com

Dream in Sea Green

J Crew Swimsuit

Do you always gravitate to the same color?  This is it for me.  Thank goodness it works on brunettes.  I’m loving the above swimsuit from J Crew, though I’d rather cut off a small appendage than put it on after the holidays.  Seriously.

Equipment Sweater

Now this is more like it!  Throw this oversized cashmere beauty from Equipment on with some leggings or skinny jeans and the sins of overindulgence are washed away.

Fishing, summer 2012

Fishing off the coast of Martha’s Vineyard this summer.

Tumblr image – lost the link /:

Lou Piccadilly Demi-Cup Lace Bra

Lace and Satin Boyshort

What girl wouldn’t want these gorgeous underthings?  Lace and satin bra and boyshorts, available at Journelle.

Tom Ford Neroli Portofino Perfume

Tom Ford does everything right. Including this wallet-emptying perfume.

Living Room

A corner of our living room – custom ottoman in Lee Jofa’s Mallard velvet.

Hermes Enamel Bracelet

Hermes Clous en Tromp l’oeil enamel bracelet

Bounkit Earrings

Love these Onyx and Amethyst Earrings from Bounkit.

Barneys Fur Vest

Ridiculously indulgent, mildly impractical.  But this vest from Barneys would be warm and toasty.  Which DOES makes it practical.  Kind of. Okay, I’m reaching.  But it is sooo cold here!

Agate Costers

My favorite agate coasters.  I bought them at the amazing Megan Winters Atelier in Lake Forest, but similar available here.

Mulberry Bayswater Bag

Mulberry’s Petrol Snakeskin Printed Bayswater bag available at Stylebop.  Sigh.

Dining Room

Dining room detail – wallpaper is Schumacher grasscloth in peacock.

Tory Burch iPhone case

A cheeky little iPhone case from Tory Burch, on sale here.

Lafco Game Room Candle

I’ll admit it.  I have a Lafco candle addiction.  When you are done burning one completely, you can pop it in the freezer to get the remaining wax out and use the beautiful glass as a vase.  How’s that for being green?

A favorite painting.

Claus Porto Soap

Crazy over Claus Porto’s Brise Marine shea butter soap, available here.

Giuseppe Zanotti Suede Pumps

Dreamy suede pumps by Giuseppe Zanotti, on sale here.

J Crew Grand Stone Bracelet

And finally, the beautiful (and budget friendly!) Grand Stone bracelet from J Crew.

All images via me unless otherwise noted.

Weekend Casual

Weekend Casual

Enza Costa colorblock top
intermixonline.com

Sweater vest
barneys.com

Arlotta short robe
journelle.com

Citizens of humanity jeans
net-a-porter.com

La perla
journelle.com

La perla
journelle.com

Madewell suede bag
madewell.com

Ileana Makri gold jewelry
matchesfashion.com

Moncler
bergdorfgoodman.com

Checked Wool Throw
williams-sonoma.com