What is sexy?

What is sexy?

My 9-year old daughter recently asked this from the backseat of my car (isn’t that where all of the amusing/difficult/serious inquiries come from?) after hearing the word in song lyrics.  The question gave me pause.  Not because I didn’t want to answer, but because sexy is undeniably subjective.  I responded eventually in a generic, text-book sort of way (my mother’s voice in my head saying, “answer honestly, giving no more information than they ask for!”), but the question stayed on my mind.

So I set about asking.  One sister responded, “Food is sexy – I am currently eating filet mignon wrapped in bacon with spinach and brie melted on top.  Gant videos.  Edith Piaf.”  Another said, “men with deep voices and strong thighs, confidence, solid ground strokes and a great sense of humor.”  And from sister number three, “confidence, charm, passion for life.  And a well-tailored suit!”

Friends – male and female – also weighed in:  A devilish smile.  A woman in a tank top and a baseball hat. A man with confidence toeing the line of arrogance.  Intelligence.  Great legs in heels.  The well dressed man.  Wit.  Ripped abs.  A woman who can pull off glasses.  Accents.  Bare shoulders in winter.  The dip in her lower back.

What do I think is sexy, you ask?  French press coffee with the New York Times.  Bill Evans.  Working up a sweat.  Red by the fire, white on the beach.  Salted caramel ice cream.  Grey cashmere.  Stolen, knowing glances.  And the sound of a spinnaker catching the wind.

*image via jennafifi.tumblr.com

3 thoughts on “What is sexy?

  1. First, I still hear your mothers voice after all these years as well. I LOVE her as my own. No worries, my Mom knows this and embraces it happily.
    Second, I wanted to add my views of sexy- generally speaking: quiet confidence, giving a compliment, NOT using foul language in every sentence & compassion.
    Sexy women are those who support and encourage other women to be their best in every way.
    Sexy men are those who can keep the house running (kids, laundry, meals) when his wife is ‘busy’- working extra hours, or putting her time in when needed elsewhere.

  2. Tattoos are sexy. Good ones, not some guy’s name. I like old-school naval tattoos on women–bluebirds, swallows, nautical stars. Hair dyed a color that doesn’t exist in nature. What it boils down to is this: Confidence is sexy.

    Music is sexy. A woman that knows good music. A woman that knows jazz. Punk. Indie rock.

    Sweat is sexy. I have no use for the gym, but a woman working outside? Nice.

    And I’ll leave you with this, from the Pixies:

    “Six foot girl / Gonna sweat when she dig / Standin close to the fire / When the light turns red / Standing in her chinos / Shirt pulled off clean / Got a tattooed tit / It say ‘#13’…”

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